spring-heeled jack

Today i asked a rather interesting question: “0ddba11, why is it when i asked my S.O. to pick his carreer/hobby or me, he went with the carreer?” well, coming from a man who has been presented with this question many a times, i will tell you; when you are in a relationship, yopu need to be supportive, even if you don’t agree/like what they are doing, in this case, what they want to do with the rest of their life. digging deeper into the issue, the main problem could be time. if that’s the case, try and work it out, and remember distance in a relationship is always good. “well whatif we can’t work it out? what if he has no freetime?” well, you could simply say something along the lines of “hey, things have been really stressful lately, we don’t really spend alot of time together anymore, i think we should just take a break” instead of “either your carreer or me!!!AAAHhhHHHHH” never get in the way ofsomeone’s dream. that is why they will pick it over you. every time. because when you give them that ultimatam, it shows you don’t support them. I’m in the preforming arts, and i’ve had several relationships derail because of it, do i regret it? hell no. “well, what about marriage? love? is their carreer worth it” it is if they marry someone who understands it. as for me, i believe in love but not marriage (from my observations. so i don’t want any of you arguing with me about how your parents or grandparents or whatever have the perfect marriage, it’s my opinion, my choice, get over it) back to the question at hand, asking that dreaded question is holding the relationship hostage, you can’t do that. it shows you are insecure and selfish. which is why they will walk away because it isn’t worth it.